He was in his early 30s, and it was easy to see why Swider had selected him for her client pool: friendly, smart, funny, attractive — who wouldn’t want to meet him?Even someone like Greg, though, has difficulty meeting women in the city.But, there is also a real-life person (in New York, that’s Swider) you can hire to go out into the world and meet people for you.The company’s name is no mistake: It’s a play on the unwritten rule that you should wait three days before calling someone you like.“Guys aren’t traditional the way they used to be,” she explained. Apart from her admittedly terrible taste in television, Christy is a completely eligible bachelorette. You could ask her about her job in the public health field, but she’d rather tell you about the time she spent in Africa building clean-water communities. But, for those living in NYC, she’s one of a growing population of young women unable to meet someone in a city brimming with young hopefuls. ”Christy thinks people in the Big Apple have a very specific problem: “It’s like New Yorkers have Peter Pan syndrome,” she said, speaking to the ways we date a ton but don’t find many actual relationships.“Women have kind of taken control of their dating lives. You know, not seeing someone past the fourth date or when those texts fizzle into radio silence. Christy’s tried Tinder, but found that, while she was open to dating, her matches were less so. She's met plenty of people through her job and social outings, but it’s still not working.
Talia Goldstein, founder of TDR, believes we’re caught in a kind of gray area where women are expected to take as much romantic initiative as men.But, as Swider explained, for someone who’s constantly going out for cocktails and romantic meals, months of this can easily add up to that kind of money.And, then you end up at dinner with someone who you’re not totally connecting with.“People don’t list ‘rich’ as much as I thought they would,” she confided. Instead, she claims you need to be brave, a good listener, and make people feel at ease.