“In the past it was uncomfortable to admit one needed the services of a matchmaker and it was usually done clandestinely.Today, belonging to a dating service is very legitimate.”Zahavi-London manages a dating site called “Shakuf B’Tzafon,” in northern Israel.“Internet dating sites create an illusion of getting closer to people but really it creates alienation. When I used to keep a running tally I think I went out with well over 60 guys and the conclusion I’ve drawn about Internet dating is that it reflects exactly what you would find if you weren’t using the Internet.You just head to J-Date and login and it creates a sense that if things don’t work out, then you can just move on with the idea that you’ll find another one with another click of a button.”Noga Martin, an editor in her 30s living in Tel Aviv, says she’s practically given up on Internet dating sites. People who are very sociable and outgoing find it very easy to meet people on the Internet and people who are more reserved or shy find it difficult,” says Martin who has big brown eyes and enjoys long walks on the beach.
In the past, it was harder to break-up because often you and your spouse were in the same circle of friends, or at work or in the neighborhood.The latest figures from the Central Bureau of Statistics show that 35% of Israeli women between the ages of 35-49 are “seeking.” For men, 42% between the ages of 35-39 are in this category.It drops to 35% between the ages of 40-44, and to 31% for the 45-49 age bracket.Now, if it doesn’t work out, it is easier to cut-off because you don’t have to see them,” Zahavi-London says.
Ronen says that “seekers” who are put off by the blatant dating clubs and sites use other, more subtle activities to meet partners.
But in reality, these events are very often attended by many more women than men; sometimes up to 80% are women.